Oscar (3yrs) and Bonnie (5yrs) are both in the bathroom before lunchtime. Bonnie returns to the room and calls out to you. “Oscar needs help, he had an accident”. You enter the bathroom area and Oscar is standing crying with his pants and underwear at his knees and you can see and smell that he has soiled his pants. Oscar is hiding his face and saying “go away, go away!”
Benjamin (4yrs) has never been in care before. He started in your room only last week and attends 3 full days per week as his mum has just started a part time job. He arrives each day at around 8.25am with his dad Steven and he is very hesitant when coming into the service from the car. He often cries and hides behind his dad’s legs as he is signing Benjamin in and grabs on tightly to his pants. Steven appears ready to leave after putting Benjamin’s bag away and says good bye to him a couple of times but does not leave staying there holding onto his hand.
Consider the signs of distress the child is displaying and how you can involve his dad in developing a departure ritual to support a relaxed and unhurried separation. (You may need to refer to handouts from class.)